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What a sad story. The thing that depresses me is that this is both *normal* and *expected* now. We are actively encouraging people to have this lifestyle, beginning when they are young.

I work for a standardized test prep company. In one of my recent online classes, I was an “off camera” teacher (essentially doing tech support) while the “on camera” teacher led the class. Everyday he asked a bunch of 16 - 17 year old kids what shows they were binge watching, what video games they were playing, what movies they were excited about, and what fandom they were into. I understand that he was trying to build rapport, but it seems to me like we should be encouraging teenagers to *do something with their lives*, not try to escape them. We’re just setting the stage for passivity and dependence later in life.

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Story is not over yet, but I agree with your comments. Learned helplessness seems now built into public education, and continually reinforced by the MSM.

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“Learned helplessness”. That is profound.

I once read, I think about depression, that you should surround yourself with positive people, not the ‘crabs in a bucket’ losers who want to feel better about themselves by refusing to countenance a better alternative.

Surround yourself with people who have the ‘can do’. I promise that we all can if we believe in ourselves and that isn’t some crystally horse shit. Distance yourselves from those who have learned helplessness, unless you can redeem them.

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I agree!

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Wow, DH. Your personal story re a family member really resonates with me/partner. And it reminds me of something I saw a while ago and have kept close to me since.

“A bird sitting in a tree is never afraid of the branch breaking, because her trust is not on the branch but on her own wings. Always believe in yourself”

Last year we stopped working, at least stopped in the sense of continuing to generate wealth. We have both worked for 35 years. We moved from a beautiful but expensive comfortable house in a comfortable part of a comfortable country. To a house that had no utilities but about 300X more land (we have been here for more than a year and got lost three times already in the garden).

We are ten years older than we were ten years ago but we feel ten years younger. We do everything for ourselves now, there are zero services out here. But we have integrated into a community of like minded people. People nothing like us, except that on reflection we seem to be exactly like them. We’re more like them than the local people in our newly adopted country. All of them strong, healthy, fit, self sufficient and mentally prepared to take care of themselves and their friends. In every way.

We have our own water, electricity, heating, boar, deer, chickens, eggs, vegetables, fruit, herbs, dogs, security. And people who share without an expectation of a return but an implicit certainty that they will receive in the future.

We have no contracts, we have trust and cash (for now, but this is not going to be a CBDC haven) and bartering and sharing and cooperation. Nobody cheats anyone because that simply would not work. Win-win, “todos ganan”.

We don’t have TV and have stepped away from MSM, except online to see what the state is planning for us mere mortals. We see people when we want to see people on our own terms, and when we do we realise how small and artificial our previous social group was. People here have a joy in the ordinary that we never had in our previous ‘sophisticated’ life.

We’re not special. We’re not especially strong or talented or wealthy or lucky. But we have done what we have done early enough to make it work. It’s hard but so rewarding.

Of course one day age will catch up with us. I prefer it did that here than in a care-home or an apartment with sirens outside. Don’t wait for life to happen and certainly never believe in a benevolent state. Doing everything for yourself is a thousand times more rewarding and, it turns out, secure than believing that society has bought into the same rules you’re playing by. I guarantee that not everyone is.

DH, you are so right with these sentiments. Thank you.

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Great personal and inspiring story. Thank you. As the Substack title indicates, I am also an expat. Many people thrive once they leave the USA: or, at least, leave behind the conventional life and maybe go off-grid or "off-gridish" somewhere in the USA. I've commented elsewhere how the American normal is increasingly pathological and dysfunctional. Far too many people making themselves sicker and sicker to make billionaires richer. I don't understand it anymore. Find your own path within that system -- or get out.

To go back to your bird on the tree branch analogy, during a bad period awhile back when I quit my job to save my health and downsized and simplified and changed nations, I told myself: "When the bottom drops out, the sky opens up -- learn to fly." So very much what you mentioned. Learn to trust yourself more. You have the resiliency. Take the necessary chances.

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Do you need a really great cook/baker/lover of work?

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The peasants get what they deserve.

Only, we're going to be dragged down with them.

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Although I do not give up on family, there is nothing I can do if the other person is not willing to take action.

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They are the easily duped and sadly fall into all classes. They're being weaponized against us.

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NPCS are literally conduits/portals for demonic influence.

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Seems to me Jonathon Sullivan, MD, PhD isn't really being honest, or maybe he simply doesn't put two and two together: It's MUCH of the fault of this "modern medical machinery" that is the PROBLEM, coupled with the toxic environment we live in. We are victims of this "medical machinery" from cradle to grave (and by "we" I mean Americans). We are poisoned every which way from Sunday, via drinking water, food, information about food, pharmaceuticals and false medical narratives, lies from govt., shitty jobs, lousy wages and high rent... and so forth. It's kind of understandable that people try to escape into fantasy worlds presented by TV...

America produces zombies and then punishes them for being zombies. It's all about CONTROL and sucking up all the wealth OUT of our pockets...

That some of us still have any sense is the reason we're being "mandated" to opt for suicide... It's easy to blame the victims, because it seems as if people CHOOSE these things, but it's not really a choice, it's a LIE, and somehow, some of us seem to be able to see that. I blame the Evil Oligarch Parasites that create this dystopia, and who want to suck ALL of us into it... Sigh. This is why we must act, and not just talk about it. My two cents, brother. Sweden is beautiful, I like the photos! They have their parasites, too...

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Sullivan is being honest -- just in comparison to you and I, he has a more conventional mind. But he knows that Big Medicine and Big Pharma are not the answer, and he practices and advocates for lifestyle medicine instead. So huge points there.

As for blaming the victim, the person I am talking about suffers no matter what -- so she might as well take responsibility. She could live well in Ecuador or in Slovenia, for example -- but she would have to commit and apply herself to adjusting, and to physical rehab. Or, she can live like crap in the USA. She was looking at relocating internationally, but not willing to take the next step. I put my money where my mouth is, and fronted her some cash to check things out. First venture out on me. Family being family. So far nothing.

At some point, you are either in or out. If the so-called normal is not working for you and not going to, accept that. Embrace it. Commit to your new life. If you are waiting for the venture capitalists to stop buying up the housing stock so they can rent it out, good luck. If you are begging AOC to save you, good luck.

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Apparently I've pissed you off. Sorry about that, it wasn't my intention. You're probably right about this, my family think I'm misguided, crazy, whatever... They are of the Borg. My brothers have not only been extremely hostile to me to the extent that they've lied about me in a courtroom, repeatedly, and made me appear to be untrustworthy and scheming for my parents' money, while my parents are being "kept" now, and so forth... I've been unable to get work, but I still refuse the jab. I have very little money, but I won't give in. I'm being evicted soon, and don't know what I'll do, but I'm getting out of WA State, where the Woke run the show. AOC? As if. Will I relent and give in, for "safety"? HELL, no. There is no "safety." But I AM starting to "accept it, embrace it, and commit to my new life," which means I give up pretty much all my possessions and hit the road... somewhere.

I'm living the other side of your relative's strange Borg life (I think of our lost friends and family as being absorbed by the Borg-- fitting, to me)... So, apologies if I seemed to be accusing you of something, that wasn't my intent. People ARE victims, but I sure as hell DO understand how easy it is to be frustrated with them, they are like cult members, brainwashed, sleep-walking... INFURIATING... Yes, indeed. This is so surreal, this whole thing...

Divide and Conquer is what I keep coming back to... that's their best weapon. That's all I'm saying. While I feel all the things others feel about everything, I try to keep in mind that we are being manipulated, and that my real anger goes to the Parasites behind all this. Peace, my brother. xo

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I'm pissed at the situation. My "you" in the comment was rhetorical. If you Jaan had the guaranteed monthly income this person does, which is chumpity-chump change for the USA but middle class safe for Latin America, you would find a way to make it work in the USA or elsewhere. I likewise obviously do agree that the predator-parasite class benefits from all of this.

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I can relate to some of this. Not least that AOC (I don’t know why we are singling her out, she is one of many) will not only not save you, she’ll cackle as she doesn’t.

I was, many years ago, in a family situation where extremely wealthy grandparents seemed to suggest to parents that they might favour grandchildren financially. Money corrupts cue estrangement and independence. Best thing that ever happened to me. My brother is a millionaire. I am far more wealthy in life experience, ability, resilience, love, life experience and satisfaction. Well, money helps to open some doors but it isn’t and shouldn’t be the goal.

So sad to see how WA has fallen. I’m not from there but have a deeply held historical affection for it.

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You said it. My brothers are like people I've never known... My parents are in cognitive decline, and all of them are jabbed. I moved here from the Bay Area to care for my folks. That seems impossible now. So... I am strangely okay with all this... maybe I'm in shock, or maybe the Zen is kicking in. All I can think about is getting a dog. ^_^

All that aside, I've been registered as an Independent for a couple of decades, now, and I don't see anything particularly freeing about that, I just don't claim either of the two parties, and all the baggage that goes with that.

Life gets more and more free... I'm thinking about just heading on out of the Murkan thing altogether... If people can come across the border from the south without much ado, then maybe I can do the opposite. Hablo el espanol...

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Pensé por un momento, porque estás en WA, ¡que estabas hablando de la frontera canadiense! No se utiliza mucho para el español en el comunista Canadá.

Hang tough man and believe in yourself.

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No pienso en Canada. Possiblemente Mexico. O, Montana, ya no se. La una es mas cerca, pero la otra esta mas caliente...

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A friend and her family have been building a home in Slovenia for the last five years. Prophetic!

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I hate to say it, but your relative is numbered amongst those who will be culled in what's coming.

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For now. But I admit, I was horrified by the exchange. Had to write it up to clear my head.

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Parallel realities. They're living in a dream world, and have no idea what's coming. I know the feeling you're talking about - I have that every time I talk to a standard bluepill American.

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I just came from visiting my neurologically clotted friend, who is now home, surrounded by EMF, and incapable of and/or uninterested in improving his health. He is not belligerent about it, he simply smiles and mentally glides away.

Now I go to see the tiny kitten I had cautioned against: sharp nails and teething vs thin crepe skin and blood thinners. My buddy is starting to get angry and mean with the kitten, which may mean it’s coming home with me.

His 29 year old OCD/borderline autistic son who moved back late 2019 may bring fast food home after work. Otherwise he is incapable of more than a drive to the pharmacy or grocery store; he remains in car apparently, awaiting call/text…

>LIVE AND LET LIVE<>LIVE AND LET DIE<

It’s tough. The predictive programming works.

The fear induced paralysis/hypnosis works.

The addictions are real. I wrestle with Self..

Spirituality/Practicality. Peace/Non-compliance.

I appreciated you writing about your struggle.

Thank you. Be well. Be strong. Guard your heart.

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It is tough all around. I appreciate you sharing this story. All I can say to myself: don't normalize helplessness. I've always been "Live & let live" -- what other adults do with themselves is not my business. They have every right to their own lives and decisions . (So long as I am not required to pay for it). But at some point and for some people, "Live & let live" does seem to become "Live & let die". When its a long-term friendship or family, it is hard to watch. Thanks again for your comments.

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Yes. Definitely hard to watch helplessly.

I am on the way home. I may be able to attune my health; for me it’s more my consciousness, my heart.

It’s ongoing. It’s daily.

Giving and receiving love gracefully.

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Excellent points, thank you.

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What a poignant story, DH. I'm sure many reading can think of a person or two that has drifted away in the past few years. I'm still trying to figure out if we're the ones on shore watching the boat get smaller on the horizon, or if we're in the boat.

I very much appreciate you that you point out this is not a right vs. left thing. They are intentionally trying to stir up tribalism and divide us.

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I do not think it is right versus left. But I do think we have a predatory elite class. I do agree the tribalism is not not helpful. But that is also why I think that every single issue should not be dragged through identity politics. I was framing the issues with her as what can you do? What steps can you take to have a better life -- better prospects? It got derailed into this rant about racist America. Okay. But you are considered a white person. And your life is a mess. So how is that helping you? If you hate the USA for it's racism and for other reasons and want to leave it, okay. Seriously. Okay. But you still need to get your shit together for that to happen. If you are staying, understand that nothing on the horizon indicates that things will get better or easier for the vast majority of Americans. Focus on your situation. What can you control? What can you do? But if a person needs society to be completely transformed before they can take any action or make a commitment, good luck. That's where the conversation went completely off the rails for me.

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Whew. Yes. Waiting for society to be transformed before taking action is indeed a recipe for failure. In general, waiting for anything external to become "aligned" before taking action that you can take on your own is an excuse for doing nothing and changing nothing!

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"Americans on fixed or limited incomes have opportunities for quality of life: in the USA and abroad. But these opportunities require self-reliance. Basic physical competency. Personal responsibility." Wow, I never realized you were a white supremacist /s

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That seems to be one of the appropriate MSM labels. You rely completely on the State, and beg and complain. You worship the right celebrity billionaire and/or social media influencer. You pray for the intercession of AOC or Elon Musk or whoever on your behalf. Or, to at least notice your grievances on social media. You are helpless otherwise. Behaving or thinking differently marks you as a questionable and perhaps even dangerous individual. So perhaps a white supremacist if one is of recent European ancestry. But if one is not of recent European ancestry, then the same person can still be the black face or Asian face of white supremacy.

The debate over racism in the USA swings free of basic personal responsibility for one's health and one's finances -- or should. Because if we need to change everything before we can do anything, that change and those actions are never going to happen. I admittedly do not get it. I am happy to be left behind by my former liberals. Let them say bad things about me. I can both pay and earn my own way through the world, and I have a life to lead.

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"Deal with your real problems. Not the imagined problems of people you do not know. People who will contribute nothing to your survival. People who will have better things to do than attend your funeral." Amen DH. Wolf packs or nothing at all.

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My apologies for lacking charity, but if one's house is on fire, deal with the fire. Likewise, if you are in a financial and physical/medical struggle for survival, acknowledge that and take action. I find the blue pill talking points insanely irrelevant in such a context. You're waiting on Bernie Sanders to pass laws that will magically make everything all right? Okay. But while you are waiting, you can still engage in constructive actions in the meantime. I don't get "the system is corrupt -- we need a total revolution -- so my life is dedicated to maintaining the status quo until that happens."

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:-)

I am a really great cook. The only thing I excel at more than cooking is modesty.

Am trying to learn baking. We bought 1/4 ton of hard wheat berries for bread. Bread & me have not had a great track record so far.

Have been teaching myself welding. And butchery. And I am going to be learning about hunting. Never done it before but our ‘community’ are hunters. Gun ordered.

Hope things work out for you Woofings person.

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